We are currently in Chapter 4: “Identifying & Expressing Feelings”
Of NVC & Chapter 5 of The Anger Workbook “Myths That Perpetuate Anger”.
While going through two books at once has seemed excruciatingly slow to me, the two books have complimented one another in amazing ways. And the most important thing is we are seeing results in the lives of the families involved. (Glad I am not in charge.)
One of things I am observing is that each person expresses and deals with anger differently. For me I had learned to internalize my anger which often comes out as depression and lack of functionality. While others externalize their anger and often end up hurting others.
Learning to understand and accept our feelings is the first step to understanding and accepting the feelings of others.
One of the ways one of our guys is connecting with his and other’s emotions is by breaking the trigger of conflict with a hug. This is amazing work from a person who used be obsessive and self absorbed. It is pretty much like a miracle.
Bushido!
