Compassionate Communication

• Road Rage: Yelling, swerving, using a vehicle as a weapon
• Bullying: Treating other people like they are worthlessThrowing/ 
• Breaking things: Taking out your frustration (or revenge?) on yours or other people’s property
• Sarcasm and Teasing: Showing people (in a humorous way?) how stupid or ridiculous you think they are
• Pouting: Feeling sorry for yourself, not cooperating just to get your way, creating guilt tripsSlamming doors/ Stomping feet
• Criticizing others: To hell with being politically correct, power tripSaying, “You’re right” but not meaning it: Seething, gets you out of a situation you are uncomfortable with/shuts them up fast
• Condescension: You feel superior to everyone else and tell them about it in a nasty or sarcastic way
• Interrupting: Your opinion counts the most; a form of bullying
• Lying: Sneaky revenge, making up/spreading rumors, making promises you never intend to keep
• Emotional abuse: Continually putting the same person down/ controlling/ threatening them repeatedly
• Domestic abuse: Continual physical and/or mental cruelty toward those you live with
• Yelling: Creating fear and/or submission through threatening volume
• Body tension: Squeezing fists, clenching jaws, flexing muscles, turning red, stress
• Withholding affection: You’ll show them who’s in control, lack of forgiveness, revengeStarting arguments/fights just “for fun”: Getting a “high” or a “rush” at the expense of others
• Moral superiority: Believing you “have a right” to be outraged and are justified in your destructive actions
• Showing off: Being the “tough guy” to impress others
• Grumpiness/moodiness: No awareness or concern about how you are coming across to others
• Plotting revenge: Planning elaborate schemes to get back at your enemiesNo forgiveness or forgetting: Hanging onto the hurts of the past
• Masochism/Sadism: Addiction to hurting others and/or being hurt
• Martyrdom: Enjoying making others feel guilty by playing the victim, way to get attention/sympathy
• Low self-esteem: Hate yourself because you are stupid, worthless, ugly, lazy… a doormat
• Stubbornness: Refusing to acknowledge being wrong or let others have their way
• Glaring: You can’t hide your disdain for others, keeps people at a distance
• Swearing/name-calling: Signal that the gloves have come off
• Threatening others with harm: Physical, mental, financial, property, loss of freedoms/choices
• Sighing/rolling eyes: Outer show of disrespect, contempt and/or frustration, listening is over

(Thanks Joe!)