NVC: Chapters 5
“What others do may be the stimulus to our feelings but not the cause.”
the four options for recieving negative messages:
1. Blame ourselves.
2. Blame others.
3. Sense our own feelings and needs.
4. Sense the feelings and needs of others.
In my journey from co-dependence I find myself switching 3 and 4. I can see how that can be a huge detriment in getting my needs met, and communicating the importance of my needs to others.
Great connecting phrases that have not been part of my vocabulary:
“I feel this way… because I am needing this…”
