January 2012
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Anger Management Class Has ended
After a year this 16 week class finally came to an end.
NVC contributes considerrable tools for learning empathy and getting one’s needs met.
I highly recommend this book for anyone in an at risk environment. Including recovery, new marriage, child welfare, counseling etc.
In following up with several of the participants, they maintain that class afforded them significant and lasting life...
April 2011
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In Review
Our tuesdaynight men’s class is coming up on the last two chapters having completed 9, 10, and 11 over the last few weeks.
There has been much discussion about the way Mr.Rosenberg gives examples and uses NVC. The examples often seem a little vague, and sometimes leave more questions than answers. We have attributed this to writing style, while I like to think it...
August 2010
3 posts
Seeking Freedom from Co-Dependency?
Co-dependency is a dysfunctional coping skill for adults to get their needs met. Many anger problems are the result of a lack of self assertion. I have found the following to be life changing.
Relational “Bill Of Rights” or “Declaration of Interdependence”
I have the right to: • Feel respected as a person. • To be appreciated and not taken for granted. • Effective...
How To recognize You Have an Anger Problem →
Road Rage: Yelling, swerving, using a vehicle as a weapon
Bullying: Treating other people like they are worthlessThrowing/
Breaking things: Taking out your frustration (or revenge?) on yours or other people’s property
Sarcasm and Teasing: Showing people (in a humorous way?) how stupid or ridiculous you think they are
Pouting: Feeling sorry for yourself, not cooperating just to get your...
NVC: Chapters 5
“What others do may be the stimulus to our feelings but not the cause.”
the four options for recieving negative messages:
1. Blame ourselves.
2. Blame others.
3. Sense our own feelings and needs.
4. Sense the feelings and needs of others.
In my journey from co-dependence I find myself switching 3 and 4. I can see how that can be a huge detriment in getting my needs met, and...
June 2010
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We are currently in Chapter 4: "Identifying &...
Of NVC & Chapter 5 of The Anger Workbook “Myths That Perpetuate Anger”.
While going through two books at once has seemed excruciatingly slow to me, the two books have complimented one another in amazing ways. And the most important thing is we are seeing results in the lives of the families involved. (Glad I am not in charge.)
One of things I am observing is that each person...
March 2010
2 posts
“A hot tempered man must pay the penalty;
if you rescue him, you will have to do...”
– Proverbs 19:19
A stern warning of the futility of assisting those who choose to react with anger, until they truly experience consequences, they will not change.
January 2010
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October 2009
7 posts
“Learning to express ourselves with honesty and clarity while paying others a...”
– Marshal Rosenburg describing NVC
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Update:
I couple guys couldn’t be with use but newcomers filled that gap, I really encourage those of you who miss the Tuesday night classes to follow along online so you are up to speed, when you do attend. (Posting questions or comments on this blog is encouraged.)
We reviewed the worksheets (see posts below) and this weeks assignment is to read Chapter 1 of the book Non- Violent...
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Lesson 1: Questions & Discussion →
.PDF handout of What we will be going over next week.
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Lesson 1: The Four Componants and the Two Parts. →
.PDF hand out from last week
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September 2009
3 posts
Community Is The Crucible For Learning
What I value in this statement is the idea that sometimes in human interaction discomfort and even pain can be part of the process for growth.
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Local NVC Class Boise, Idaho (Christian)
How can you manage your anger by learning better communication?
- Learning to become aware of others needs and your own equally.
- Learning to ask to have those needs met directly rather than demanding or waiting.
- Learning to become aware of what your needs and feelings are.
- Learning to listen to the needs and feelings of others and respond, without reacting.
These awareness skills can...
Slow Down...Slow Down More.
I am really enjoying this phrase. It is helping me to enjoy my time.